Black Pearls

It takes too much energy not to care! –Lorraine Hansberry On this day,  I will take five minutes  to discuss with my sons something that bothers them, and then we will brainstorm possible actions we might take to make things better. Read more…

I will not allow one predujiced person or one million or one hundred million to blight my life. –James Weldon Johnson                         On this day,  I will take five minutes to talk to my sons about looking within to decide who they are,  where they want to go in life, and how they want to get […]

Childhood experiences, such as having quality playtime or being allowed to try new and different things without the fear of being told we’re wrong or stupid give us permission to be creative and take risks as adults. –Julia A. Boyd                                                  On this day,  I pledge to allow my sons opportunities to experiment, to stumble, to […]

My father use to work two jobs and still come home happy every night. –Magic Johnson On this day, I will remember that even the most tedious tasks can be made more bearable by realizing that seeing me shouldering responsibility will help my sons learn what it takes to be successful in the world. Read […]

When I was twelve, my mother gave me a diary, and I would write in that and ultimately in notebooks and journals. Writing [The Women of Brewster Place] did for me what those journals did when I was a painfully shy, very troubled teenager. It got my life in order. –Gloria Naylor                                                     On this day,  I […]

One day after another meet and another loss, I came home and complained to my family that I was tired of losing. I pinned pictures and articles about track and field on a bulletin board in my room, and started setting goals, writing them down and tacking them onto the board. –Carl Lewis                                                     On this […]

The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate. –Oprah Winfrey                                               On this day, I will take five minutes to ask my sons what gives their life meaning, and to encourage them to celebrate what they find there now.  I will ask what they would like to find […]

Hate is consuming and weakening.  Hateful thinking breads negative actions. –Marcus Garvey On this day, I will take five minutes to identify objects of my hatred and consider whether  holding on to these hatreds is helping me or hindering me from being the kind of parent I want to be  and from attaining my personal goals. Read […]

If you make yourself into a doormat, people will wipe their feet on you. –Belizean proverb On this day, I will take five minutes to discuss with my sons the idea of priorities, and that they must resist letting people knock them off track. Read more…

People will say, “You’re a terrific black general.” I’m trying to be the best general I can be. –Colin Powell                                                   On this day, I will take five minutes to discuss with my sons an item relating to black pride—kente cloth, for instance, or a family photograph—and suggest that they let that object inspire them to […]

We have been sad long enough to make this earth either weap or grow fertile. –Audre Lord On this day, I will take five minutes talk to my sons about the skills and attitudes it takes to be successful, possibly using examples from our family, historical figures, or contemporary celebrities. Read more…

The impulse to dream had been slowly beaten out of me by experience. Now it surged up again, and I hungered for books, new ways of  looking and seeing. –Richard Wright                                           On this day, I will take five minutes to discuss with my sons something that either I or they have read. Read more…