Here is Madenoire.com‘s 10 ways to heal after a heartbreak.
Nothing, and I mean nothing – washes away the sadness of a failed relationship like traveling. You can go around the corner, down the street, or to another city, it doesn’t matter. A change of scenery (as well as drinking out of a coconut) will have you feeling brand-spanking-new.
I’ve found that a lot of people tend to be selfless in a relationship – and that’s good, but only up to a point. Constantly giving can be a drain on your time and your spirit, so now is the time to turn your attention to yourself. Focus on what you want out of life or a relationship, what makes you happy, and what you can do to be the best you that you can be. Sounds very Oprah-ish, but a bit of self-reflection can save you time, and heartbreak, in the future.
Take up hobbies
Now that you aren’t constantly caking with our ex-boo, you need to find things to do to occupy your time so that you don’t go (too) buckwild, or have a “Marvin’s Room” moment. Dust off that guitar, start volunteering at the local animal shelter, go to karaoke – whatever you do, make sure it’s fun!
Switch it up
Whether it’s changing your hair, getting a tattoo, or signing up for extreme sports, radical change can feel powerful, especially if you are just coming off of the heels of a nasty breakup. It’s liberating to do something just for the hell of it (within reason). Be safe, but also TURN UP.
Take some Time Alone
Taking time to yourself is crucial, and it’s something that can be easy to side step in the throes of passionate romancing. Now that you have the time, spend it with the most important person in your life – you! This is a great time to listen to Beyoncé self-empowerment songs and sing into your brush in the mirror (it does wonders for the spirit). However, do yourself a favor and DO NOT LISTEN TO ADELE. DO NOT LISTEN TO DRAKE. If you do you’ll be in your feelings to the point of no return.
In relationships it’s easy to have tunnel vision and forget that there are many, many more fish in the sea. After you’ve had enough time to regroup, get out there and meet new people. You don’t have to be trying to get kisses down low, but you do need to remember that all types of relationships – platonic and romantic – are good for the soul.
Of course the first three days after a break up will be filled with Haagen-Dazs, tequila, fried chicken and Krispy Kremes, but after that you should really cut the crap. No really. Eating clean will help you feel better as you try to clear your head. You’ll probably be snatched to the gawds afterwards too, which is always a good thing.
Retail therapy ain’t never hurt nobody. This technically falls under the ‘be self-centered’ axiom, and it is one of the most fun ways to be self-centered. Just make sure all your bills are paid.
Vent, then Let It Go
Everyone doesn’t need to know that you are serving Sea Salt with a side of Lawry’s about your recent split. The reality is that most people don’t care, or just want to be nosy. So make sure you vent to the right person – your homegirl/cousin/therapist. Then let it go. Holding out for your ex-lover to come running back is probably not the move. Besides, it’ll keep you from the fine Idris Elba-look alike in your future.
Have your come to Jesus moment now, while you are single, so you’ll have your head right as you move on to the next phase of your life. Getting spiritually centered, however you identify religiously, will be a balm to your weary soul. So break out the church hats and get ta prayin. (Madenoire.com)