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If you want to grill your daughter’s date so you can feel better about letting her leave the house, here are the 10 questions you should ask him. VIA:http://www.pinterest.com
1) “Why do you want to date my daughter?”
Ah, the old classic. By putting him on the spot right from the get-go, you can get a good sense of what he wants with your precious little girl. At the very least, you’ll get to watch him squirm as he tries to come up with an answer on the fly.
2) “What do you like to do for fun?”
If he botched #1 (shame on him if he did), here’s where you give him a chance to redeem himself. Talking about his hobbies puts the ball in his court and hopefully makes him a little less terrified of you. And you get to learn something about the kid who’ll be taking your daughter out—the sports or music he may be into, or even the video games he plays.
3) “Are you religious?”
Even if your family is not religious, you should know if your daughter’s boyfriend is! It could also give you a sense of his character and values. Be polite!
4) “What do you do for work?”
What’s his job? (Does he even have a job?) How long has he worked there, and what does he like and dislike about it? Knowing what he does for work and how he views the job can give you real insights into his character and where he’s going in life (if anywhere).
5) “Where do you see yourself in five years?”
Yeah, it sounds like a job interview question, but you never know. Maybe your daughter’s bad boy date has big goals for his life that nobody would have ever guessed. If the kid dreams of becoming an entrepreneur or a doctor, you might overlook the long hair and tattoo, right?
6) “What are your parents like?”
Your upbringing shapes who you become later in life, and getting to know a little bit about his parents will give you a sense of who he is, even if you don’t get to meet them in person. If he’s tight-lipped about his past, he could be hiding something you need to know about.
7) “What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?”
This one’s a trick question. If he tells you a cute, mildly embarrassing story that has you reminiscing over your own childhood, he earned a pass on this one. If he chooses to tell you about the time he earned a spot on the sex offender registry or the time a joyride stuck him with a grand theft charge—well, you don’t need us to tell you to show him the door.
8) “Do your parents have any dating rules we should be aware of?”
You might have your own rules for your daughter—when she has to be home, what she is and isn’t allowed to do, and so on. If his parents have their own set of rules for him (or if they don’t), knowing that ahead of time can prevent some unfortunate misunderstandings down the road.
9) “What are your plans for this date?”
It probably goes without saying that you should get all the details surrounding the date. Where is he planning to take your daughter? Who else will be there? When will they get back? Set a firm curfew.
10) Before you let them leave, get all his information
Write down your daughter’s boyfriend’s full name, address, cell phone number, and the names and phone number(s) of his parents. If he’s driving, get the make and model of his car and the license plate number. Maybe even snap a photo of his driver’s license. It might seem overbearing and it will probably embarrass your daughter, but ask yourself this question. If your daughter didn’t return from her date, wouldn’t you want to be able to give the police as much info as possible?